Planning an Engagement Party

The Complete Guide to Planning an Engagement Party in Charlotte for 2025

As someone with an intense love and passion for hospitality, planning an event is exciting – but let’s be honest – it can feel overwhelming! As a Charlotte wedding venue owner at Redbird Ridge Estate, I’ve learned having a plan and timeline is essential to a smooth planning process.

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Celebrating your engagement is the perfect way to kick off your wedding journey! In 2025, engagement parties are all about personalization, creativity, and making memories with your closest friends and family. Here’s a step-by-step guide to planning an engagement party in Charlotte that is memorable that reflects your style and love story.

1. Decide Who Hosts

Traditionally, the bride’s family hosted the engagement party, but today, anyone can take the lead—parents, friends, or the couple themselves. Discuss early on who will host and what budget is available, as this will shape many other decisions.

2. Set the Date

Aim to host your engagement party within the first few months after your proposal, while the excitement is still fresh. Most couples pick a date about three months post-engagement, but there’s flexibility if you need more time or if guests will be traveling. Weekend evenings (Friday or Saturday) are popular, as they’re convenient for most guests.

3. Create the Guest List

Your engagement party guest list is typically smaller than your wedding guest list. Traditionally, only those invited to the wedding are invited to the engagement party. However, if you want to celebrate with a wider circle, just be clear if some guests won’t be at the wedding itself. Decide early to avoid confusion and awkwardness.

4. Choose a Venue

Pick a venue that fits your guest list, budget, and desired atmosphere. Options include:

• Private homes (yours, a family member’s, or a friend’s)

• Unique venues with stunning property where guests can roam

• Restaurants or private dining rooms

• Trendy bars or cocktail lounges

• Gardens, parks, or backyards for a relaxed vibe

• Unique spaces like art galleries, rooftops, or even a poolside

Consider the convenience for guests—choose a location central to most attendees or consider hosting separate events for different groups if needed.

5. Pick a Theme

Themes set the tone and help guide your decisions on décor, food, and attire. For 2025, popular engagement party themes include:

• Charcuterie and Champagne

• Boozy Brunch

• BBQ

• Bonfire Bash

• Seafood Boil

• Hot Cocoa Celebration (for winter engagements)

• Pool Party (for summer)

• Around the World (international cuisine and décor)

• Wine and Cheese Night

• Great Gatsby/Roaring ’20s

• Pop culture themes (like Friends or meme parties)

Choose a theme that feels authentic to you as a couple and fits your venue.

6. Send Invitations

Once the date, venue, and guest list are set, send invitations about 4-6 weeks in advance. Digital invitations are popular and eco-friendly, but printed invites add a special touch. Include clear RSVP instructions and any notes about dress code or theme.

7. Plan the Menu

Your menu can be as simple or elaborate as you like. Options include:

• Passed appetizers and cocktails

• Buffet-style meals

• Sit-down dinners

• Themed food stations (taco bar, dessert bar, etc.)

• Potluck (guests bring dishes to share)

Match the menu to your theme and consider dietary restrictions.

8. Decor and Ambiance

Decorations help set the mood. For 2025, trends include:

• Candlelit ambiance for romance

• Fairy light canopies

• Neon signs with custom messages

• Personalized banners, balloons, and photo displays

• Themed tableware and centerpieces (think ring-shaped toppers or travel-inspired décor)

Don’t forget a playlist or live music to keep the energy up—choose tunes that encourage mingling and celebration.

9. Outfits and Photography

Select outfits that fit your theme and venue. Some couples opt for coordinated looks or colors. Hire a photographer or ask a friend to capture candid moments, or set up a DIY photo booth with props for guests to enjoy.

10. Favors and Thank You’s

Party favors are optional but appreciated. Consider small tokens like mini bottles of bubbly, custom cookies, or themed keepsakes. After the party, send thank you notes to guests and hosts to express your gratitude.

Sample Planning Timeline

1 Month After Engagement

• Set budget and hosting arrangements

• Decide on party style (formal, casual, etc.)

• Draft guest list and gather contact info

• Book venue and vendors

2 Months After Engagement

• Send invitations

• Plan décor and attire

• Create a registry (if desired)

3 Months After Engagement

• Confirm RSVPs

• Finalize menu and playlist

• Host the party and celebrate!

Final Tips for a Seamless Engagement Party

• Personalize the event to reflect your relationship.

• Delegate tasks to friends or family to reduce stress.

• Focus on celebrating—don’t let perfectionism overshadow the joy.

With thoughtful planning, your engagement party will be a joyful, unforgettable start to your wedding celebrations in 2025!

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The Top 5 Questions Couples Ask About Their Wedding

I’ve had the honor of guiding couples through one of the most meaningful journeys of their lives. Whether you're newly engaged or deep in the planning process, here are the top five questions I hear from couples—and my advice to help you navigate them with confidence.

1. “Where do we even start?”

My Take:
The first steps are often the most overwhelming—but that’s where I come in. Start with your vision: the feeling you want guests to walk away with. Is it timeless elegance? A laid-back garden party? A glam city soirée? Once we anchor your aesthetic and priorities, everything else—venue, vendors, timeline—will follow with clarity. My planning framework breaks it down into phases to prevent overwhelm and ensure we stay ahead of every detail.

Pro Tip: Focus on your top 3 priorities first. For many, it’s venue, photography, and catering—but for others, it might be entertainment, floral design, or fashion. There’s no “right” order—just the right one for you.

2. “How do we stay within budget?”

My Take:
Budgeting isn’t about cutting corners—it’s about maximizing value. As a seasoned wedding professional, I help couples allocate funds wisely based on their priorities, guest count, and vision. Think of your budget as a strategic tool, not a constraint.

Pro Tip: Always build in a 10-15% contingency fund for unexpected expenses or dream upgrades you’ll fall in love with during the process (because let’s be honest—there will be a few!).

3. “How do we make our wedding feel like us?”

My Take:
Personalization is the secret sauce to an unforgettable wedding. From signature cocktails and customized vows to handpicked music and meaningful décor elements, every wedding should tell a unique love story—yours. My approach is to uncover the essence of your relationship and translate it into design and experience.

Pro Tip: Infuse your story into the little details—your invitation suite, escort cards, even your food choices. That’s what guests remember.

4. “How do we choose the right vendors?”

My Take:
Your vendor team is your wedding dream team—and hiring the right ones is crucial. I’ve cultivated relationships with the most talented and reliable creatives in the industry. I personally vet every vendor I recommend based on quality, professionalism, and alignment with your vision and budget.

Pro Tip: Choose vendors whose work you admire and whose personalities you vibe with. Chemistry is key—you’ll be working closely for months, sometimes years.

5. “What if something goes wrong on the big day?”

My Take:
Real talk: something small almost always goes off-script—but with a pro team (and a contingency plan), you’ll never know it happened. My job is to handle hiccups before they hit your radar so you stay present, peaceful, and fully immersed in the magic of your day.

Pro Tip: Trust your team. If you've hired professionals, you've already done the hardest part. Let go, be in the moment, and enjoy every second—you only get this day once.

Final Thoughts

Planning your wedding is a journey—but you don’t have to walk it alone. With the right guidance, it can be joyful, creative, and deeply personal. I’m here to make that vision real—seamlessly, beautifully, and stress-free.

Ready to take the next step? Let’s design the day you’ll remember forever.